Potty Training State of Mind

by tinysneakers

Everyone always talks about things like “how to potty train” or “how to potty train your kid in three days” or “potty training boys” like it’s some secret method you have to learn or else. {Ok, maybe by “talks about” I really mean “Googles”. Or searches pinterest.}

But to me, the actual hard part about potty training has nothing to do with the “how to”. I mean, it’s pretty straight forward. Take diaper off. Put kid on potty. Repeat until he gets that needing to pee means going in the potty.

The hard part is being the one doing the training.

toddler with his loveys

{Enter random picture since I swore I’d never post any photos of my kid on the potty, even though I do have some really stinking adorable ones his first girlfriend is just going to love.}

I can put my kid on the potty all day long and tell him to pee. I can teach him that we don’t pee-pee on the floor, or the couch, or on mommy, or in our pants. I can do pee-pee dances and act overly excited about normal bodily functions. I can buy underpants with characters from movies he’s never seen or read books about potties ‘til I turn blue in the face.

But none of that matters if I don’t remember to ask him if he needs to go potty. Or tell him he needs to go before we go on a walk. Or take him to the bathroom when we get to a store. Or before we leave a store. Or while we’re at a friend’s house.

Let me tell you about kids’ bladders. They’re teeny tiny. And while you’re at home and he can make it an hour without going potty, as soon as you’re out doing something he’ll need to go every fifteen minutes. Do you know how easy it is to get distracted in 15 minutes? That’s barely a “hey how are you” conversation with a friend at a playdate or half a trip around the grocery store. That’s pretty much the length of time it takes to put on a toddler’s bathing suit and sunscreen and then start all over after they have to pee again.

toddler riding balance bike

It’s not so much how you potty train. Or when you potty train. It’s that you have to train yourself to have a potty-trained kid. We’re at the point where most of K’s accidents aren’t his accidents at all – they’re mine.

{Or my poor choice of words – asking him if he has to go vs. telling him to go.}

So my advice? Don’t potty train untilyou’re ready to plan your life around small bladders and bathroom trips. It matters less how old your kid is or how much you want to get rid of diapers for good, and much more on if YOU are ready to potty train. Or like doing lots of laundry.

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Kelly August 11, 2014 at 8:35 am

Exactly right! Maybe you should write a potty training guide for Moms!

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tinysneakers August 12, 2014 at 8:01 am

Ha! On what NOT to do maybe 😉

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