KB: 1 Month

by tinysneakers

Our little bundle of joy has officially left the newborn stage- he’s one month old! One MONTH!

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At times, these have been the fastest 4 weeks of my life. At others, they’ve been oh so long.

I don’t even know where to start to adequately describe the last month. To say our lives have changed immensely is an understatement and doesn’t even begin to encompass how things have been for the last four weeks. Every week has been completely different than the last; every day and night has been different than the one before it. There’s no telling what will come next or what we’ll think of it.

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The first 2 weeks were almost, dare I say it, easy. As easy as you could expect with a newborn, that is.There’s nothing easy about not sleeping, learning how to breastfeed, recovering from childbirth, and learning how to take care of a newborn baby, but I was pleased with how we adapted and made the most of every day.

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I prematurely patted myself on the back for managing to keep life going on a semi-normal basis. I was pleasantly surprised to fit in daily showers, make breakfast, keep the dishes and laundry fairly under control, and in general pleased with my ability to not collapse in sheer exhaustion.

It’s a good thing I opted to spend time snuggling with my baby instead of writing every post draft that popped into my head {such as “hey, it’s totally possible to conquer everything on your to do list with a newborn}, otherwise I’d have to officially put my foot in my mouth.

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Those first two weeks must’ve been nature’s way of easing us into parenthood, but frankly, I feel like it was a tease.  The last two weeks have been more what I imagined life with a newborn to boy- tiring, frustrating, confusing, and so much more. Of course I can’t seem to remember even one of those negative adjectives when I look down at my sweet boy’s sleeping face, or peer into his wide, delightful blue eyes.

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Newborns are super sleepy. Especially early, jaundiced newborns. It’s not a big deal to get the rest of your daily life tackled when the baby spends more than half the day sleeping. But then they wake up. Winking smile

Now that the little guy stays awake more, we’ve gotten the chance to get to know him. His facial expressions; his moods; his quirks. While he spent the first 2 weeks of his life relatively happy and complacent, the past 2 weeks he’s been more of a cranky pants and Mr. Grumpy Baby.

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On the days were he screams for hours on end, my heart breaks because I feel helpless in making everything better. He looks at me with wide, bright eyes as if to say, “Come on, Mom, fix it!”…and I can’t. But then he eventually does fall asleep and his sweet, sleeping face reminds me at least I’m doing something right. The days {and the nights…oh, the nights!} seem long now, but as I look back and realize it’s only been 2 weeks of crankiness, I know the next 2 weeks could, and most likely will be, completely different.

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The last two weeks have been a constant time of trial and error, trying to figure out what’s wrong when our boy cries endlessly and doesn’t seem to be hungry, wet, or tired. We’ve cycled through a million theories and landed on zero concrete answers. Gas? Diaper rash? Just Cranky McCrankerson? Every day I wonder whether my breastmilk is good enough for him- is something I’m eating upsetting his stomach? Is there enough in there? Is it coming out too fast…too slow?

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A trip to the doctor revealed that something must be going well with the breastfeeding- my 6 lb bundle of joy is now a whopping 8 lbs 4 oz, which surprised even his pediatrician. And yes, we were so the brand new parents who went to the doctor because we couldn’t cure our babe’s diaper rash. {A big thanks to our pediatrician for completely rolling with the punches and pretending we weren’t being stupid and overly concerned.} Turns out it wasn’t a stupid trip though, as what we were treating as diaper rash was really a burn from the acidity of his poop. Yeah, I just wrote that. Ahh, parenthood.

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Like many new parents, I’d imagine, we constantly find ourselves wondering if we can call the manufacturer and request the forgotten owner’s manual. If only we could look up the answers to what he needs!

It’s tough to hear from other new parents that their babies of the same age are sleeping up to 5 hours at night. Comparisons are never fair, but it makes us wonder what we’re doing wrong. Our little munchkin, who we used to wake up every 3 hours to eat is now absolutely frantic if he doesn’t eat every 1.5 to 2 hours- allllll day and night. Instead of our sleep hours slowing increasing, we’re waving them goodbye a little more each night.

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We often forget that our little guy was technically a preemie because he was so healthy at birth, but it’s not fair to expect him to do everything that other 4 week olds are doing- he’s been busy catching up and we just have to let him go at his own pace.

Even though the last few weeks haven’t been easy as pie and are full of questions, we know we’re doing everything we can and that eventually we’ll figure things out.

Despite some of the struggles, we’ve also accomplished a lot as a new little family!

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Some first month achievements:

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The little bit:

Can hold his head up!

Hates tummy time but can roll to his side when he’s patient enough to not scream as soon as he’s put down.

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Speaking of, hates being put down to sleep.

Cute little sleepy times squeaks have turned to full on grunts and groans.

Loves to do the “shark face”- {bobs & shakes his head back and forth like a shark…it’s cute, not creepy like it sounds…} & the dougie dance with daddy.

Smiles! Screw anyone who wants to tell me it’s gas.

Things we’ve done:

Lots of walks! Most of the time these go well; sometimes not so much. We haven’t ventured outside the neighborhood for exactly this reason.

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Mom & Baby yoga! I never thought I’d be a mom who took her baby to yoga, but after such a good experience with prenatal yoga I was excited to give it a try.

Super Bowl party with friends, our first time eating outside the home. Luckily they have a newborn too, so they understood you crying during important plays and us needing to leave early to go to bed.

A trip to the Junior League house and the grocery store- proving mom and baby are perfectly capable of running errands on their own. Winking smile

Lots and lots of snuggles and cuddles that we wouldn’t trade for the world. Smile

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Sana February 13, 2012 at 8:09 pm

You must bring the baby to MD!

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Katie @ Healthy Heddleston February 13, 2012 at 9:29 pm

AGREEEEEEED!!!

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Kelly February 13, 2012 at 9:39 pm

So precious! Can’t believe he is already 1 month!!

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Karen February 13, 2012 at 10:45 pm

THANK YOU for posting a realistic look at what life is like for parents of a newborn! Sometimes I read other blogs about how easy everything is and I just shake my head and wonder, what the heck?!?!? My baby is now a crazy 20 month old and I’m expecting our second in July. Time really does fly. My favorite (if overused) saying is “The days are long, but the weeks/months/years are short.” And it is so true. Eventually he’ll somehow get on some sort of schedule so your days and nights will definitely get more predictable…although you’ll always still wonder where that damn manual is, no matter what age he is!!

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Alison February 14, 2012 at 3:26 am

Don’t feel bad – Corban was the same way, eating every 1.5-2 hours. The good part was he grew really fast and is no longer small for his age, and a magic switch turned at 2 months. It probably has something to do with moving him to the nursery at night and him finally accepting the pacifier, but he can finally sleep 4-5 hours (if we’re lucky)! So hang in there. You’re doing great! He looks so sweet.

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Haley February 14, 2012 at 11:35 am

He is so so so adorable. Thanks for a glimpse into the good, bad…and the ugly! You seem to be doing great though and I can’t imagine looking at him ever gets old…

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marci February 14, 2012 at 12:31 pm

He’s so cute and y’all seem to be adjusting really well! I can’t believe it’s almost our turn!

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